Retired drunk partner

[tukker]

Been with partner for 10 yrs, he took early retirement a few years ago and we moved abroad with my daughter who wanted to move.
We started renovating the house and I found work but had to work away from home which was quite stressful for everyone but needs must. This year I got a job closer to home but my partner is drinking a lot and everyday. He's always been a drinker but it was wine in the evening now it's beers at 12pm onwards and wine in the evening.
He's regularly drunk in the daytime and I hate it. I'm trying to hold on a few more months as my daughter has important exams and will go to university in September. I can't carry on like this, but he won't listen.
I think I need to call it a day.

Yes you do, especially if you want to continue supporting your DD.
You need to start getting your ducks in a row. Do you own property? Whose name is it in? Can you support yourself? Where will our DD go to university?
Sorry, a lot of questions.

Yes, you do.

Yes you do need to call it a day with him. His primary relationship is with drink, not you and infect it’s never been with you either. He’s a bad male role model to be showing your daughter in particular. Did you yourself grow up with such a parent?.

What is the situation re the property and finances?. Do you work currently?.

Leave asap with your daughter. Exams can be retaken and in the great scheme of things those are really no reason to remain with him. Do not kick the can down the road, what you are describing is intolerable now and will
only get worse.

I cannot imagine the atmosphere at home is currently good for revising or studying in.

My daughter is 19 and she needs to take these exams in 2 weeks as she's worked so hard to get to this point. We live in his house abroad and I have a house in the UK. I work here part time.
This was meant to be a new life for us but it's nothing now.
My mother was an alcoholic but I lived with my father so I didn't see it.

Yep.
He's an alcoholic.
The drink always comes first and he will pull you down with him.
You should leave him as soon as you can.

Your childhood set you up good and proper re alcoholism. Your mother was an alcoholic and that has had an effect even though you lived with your dad.

Can you find alternative accommodation during the next 2-3 weeks?. I would not think that life at home is at all conducive for your DD to studying and or revising.

What do you want to teach her about relationships and what is she learning here?. Again exams can be retaken if needed, they are not the be all and end all here.

Unfortunately I can't just move out, I need to have things in place. He's not aggressive when he drinks, I'm not in any danger.
But I've had enough and I don't have to stay so I won't.

Have you told your daughter that you intend to leave?

Whilst I can see that the current environment is unlikely to be conducive to study equally moving now when the exams are in two weeks will be disruptive.

I think you need to make plans now to leave ASAP after the exams.

I cant leave straight away, I have to find a job and sort out somewhere to live plus move all my belongings. It's going to be a slow process.