Divorcees with kids- share your experience!

[Niki89]

I feel im not happy with my husband. He brings nervous heavy energy into the house. I realised i would have been happier with a quiet, calm man but my husband is the opposite. We met very young and have been together for around 15 years now. Back then i didnt know who i was and what i needed but now i know myself better but feels its too late and i rushed into serious relationship, partially because i always wanted to make sure i have children before im too old. I am 36 now and this is no longer a risk, i got 2 kids and i am proud of it.
i am wondering - who has divorced here, share your experience, how did you manage if you have small children (i have 2 boys)? Did you work full time? Did you have enough money? Did you have enough time with your kids? And did you ever regret divorcing?

thanks!

I was a bit younger than you when I divorced with 2 kids. I worked full time and my ex did have them regularly. Once we were in a new routine it was fine. We argued a bit while getting used to the new set up (he thought kids were free so wasn’t keen on paying maintenance and got the shock of his life when he had to look after them on his own).
But he got used to it and my life was so peaceful with just me and my kids. It was tough when they were poorly and when there were fun times that I didn’t have an adult to share them with. But I never regretted leaving for a second. I was pretty much a single mum when I was married as ex was barely there and he didn’t do a lot, so there wasn’t a lot of difference when he moved out.

Divorced and living apart for over 2years now.
2dc who we have 50/50 custody agreement- no child maintenance but he pays the afterschool fees.
Yes I work full time.
Yes I have enough money-just! I earn 50k and get child benefit. I have lots of savings too. He bought me out of the family home so I’m looking to buy my own place soon enough. My rent is extortionate.
you will never have enough time with your dc if custody is shared but I try to keep a balance of quality time and normal day to day life. It can’t be Disney all the time!
no regrets.

I changed to full time. Was mid 40s with 2 teenage boys. Best decision ever. We all get along but I'm glad we divorced. We've all moved on and have new partners.