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Sweetlove23 · 04/06/2025 10:03

Ok so after been in a relationship for 13 years and having a bad situationship with someone, I have dipped my toe into online dating.

I matched with a guy, we had great conversation, he asked me on a date, we spoke on the phone before this but I managed to find his socials and the photos he’d put on his profile were 6/7 years old so I really wasn’t sure but thought sometimes people can surprise you.

date one. I was pleasantly surprised and quite attracted to him. After the date he said he wanted to see me again. We arranged and also spoke on phone again. All week I’d started to like him more and more until I went on date 2 and instantly thought no.

I would get if I wasn’t sure on date one and thought let’s give him another chance but it wasn’t like that.

has this happened to anyone else. I now don’t know if it’s because he’s treating me so nice and I’m not used to it it’s put me off or if actually he’s just not for me. He wants to see me again and I’m unsure if to give it another go or draw a line. Advice please as I need to get back to him either way.

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Drummend01 · 04/06/2025 10:11

Why did you instantly think no? Was it physical attraction or something else?
In my experience your gut is usually right so if you’re not feeling it then it probably isn’t going to work

Sweetlove23 · 04/06/2025 10:18

@Drummend01 yes physical attraction. Just some of his mannerisms put me off.

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Sweetlove23 · 04/06/2025 10:19

I just don’t know why I did then didn’t if that makes sense.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 04/06/2025 10:20

Your gut knows and will have picked up on something dodgy about him.

OR maybe you're used to 'bad boys' and so his calm felt unfamiliar and therefore unattractive as you don't associate it with attraction and romance?

Sweetlove23 · 04/06/2025 10:23

@Unexpectedlysinglemum i do think nice guys put me off. I’m used to been treated badly but then my ex had edge but treated me nice in the beginning. This guy I think is too nice.

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