So my cousin has her suspicions about her current bf of 2 yrs for cheating. She is going to buy an AirTag and hide it in his vehicle. I think this is great idea. My own bf does see why she’s suspicious and even suggested AirTag, but my best friend thinks it’s a terrible idea so I’m seeking advice in case I’m being too gung ho and a terrible cousin. For info I don’t know my cousins bf well (and neither does my friend or bf) - they live in Scotland and we live in south England so seen each other couple times in last 2 years due to various things. But I speak to cousin a lot as we were very close growing up and are like sisters. I cannot ask any of my family for advice as they are terrible gossips and she does not want this widely known amongst family. My friend and bf are not gossips, and she knows they know. But I am so doubting myself in some ways and fear I might give her bad advice as my own dad was a cheater and I have low tolerance for this so feel like I want some anonymous feedback.
The reason my cousin is suspicious is that her bf constantly goes solo camping to do Munro’s in Scotland where they live. He used to often say how amazing the signal was in Scotland but for past couple months he always complains no signal - in fact he’s starting pre warning her he’ll have no signal. They previously happily used find my phone (which they both happily use to share locations and help find lost phones and just usual life) as a safety feature for his solo trips but this now nolonger tracks him for a good 15 hrs of an evening and until late morning. It’s becoming more common both the camping and the no signal… His find my phone will stop sending signal and just show last location right near a Munro. In the mid morning she has noticed when it does track he is literally miles from that Munro - like over 1hr drive away and not in the wilderness!
She also says he is different - almost manic at times and deflects questions with all this stupid humour that’s increasing and a bit out of character. But then she feels grumpier so isn’t sure if it’s her.
Anyone any experience of this? I personally totally think it’s inexplicably odd that he now disappears for 15 hours every camping trip when he never used to and pops up miles away from where he was like a teleportation trick. I feel like she needs to get some closure on it and this might help. Personally I think he’s cheating and I have warned her that which she said she is prepared to find out. There are no children.
She says if he is where he says he is then she can let this go (as in the AirTag also sends no signal)- I believe her. She says if he is lying (the AirTag is pinging in that location or worse still another) then she is 100% prepared to split up - I believe her. It’s the limbo and suspicion killing her.
My bf and me both feel that if we were tracked because of suspicious behaviour like this we would be ok and likely laugh about it. My friend just says invasion of privacy that could end a relationship either way. My cousin says she needs to know as this is driving her insane. I totally get my cousin but perhaps I am biased.
Any advice?