Going through a separation but still living together. Often, my now ex partner would put things in places I couldn't find... or not in their usual place. Leave papers ontop of keys etc. It's still happening as I cannot move out till my new house sale goes through.
Yesterday they had gone out and took my keys out the door. Usually they would be left on the side, but they had been put on the floor with some cardboard over?
This meant when postman came I couldn't find my keys but am wise to this so managed to figure out how to find them, postman waiting. If had been later, I'd of been late for work.
This has happened with me wasting hours looking for things during relationship, to which ex said "I can't help it but I have adhd"
Now I loved them and still do in a way but I am excited to not have this nonsense anymore.
Is this a trait of adhd or am I being gaslighted?
Clothes have gone missing, sometimes one shoe odd, odd socks, documents hard to find... I'll know I've put something somewhere and it goes astray.
I've never admitted this to anyone but I felt I was going mad at times but didn't believe someone I loved and I thought loved me could do this. But after keys yesterday I think I was potentially right all along.
It so happens with conversations, saying one thing then denying it or saying it didn't happen like that.
Heartbroken confused and gutted.
Roll on my own home!