Im i in the wrong ?????

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me and my partner split up for a year.
he moved out and we lived separately.
in that time I started talking to someone for a couple of months but I never met him in person.
my ex ( now partner again) he did actually meet someone and he hadn’t admitted it but I know he slept with that person.
now we got back together last December and he has been asking me for all the details including the conversations I had with the guy I was speaking to.
I told him majority of the things I’ve done as I felt pressured to but he keeps asking me to go into detail etc.
as far as I’m concerned I was single so was he I don’t think I need to explain myself to him, I haven’t asked about what he’s done because I’m simply not interested as he was also single.
when I tell him that I won’t be going into anymore details and that I want to leave this in the past he gets angry at me and quite aggressive and says that I’m willing to lie to him instead of just telling him.
im I in the wrong or is he? I just don’t know anymore.

No you are not. Why did you split and why did you get back together? What changed?

Tell him that if he doesn’t stop with the anger and aggression you’ll be splitting up permanently

when I tell him that I won’t be going into anymore details and that I want to leave this in the past he gets angry at me and quite aggressive

You should have stayed separated. He' s controlling.

He needs to draw a line under your year apart. Start again. Or not…

He's not the one.

Ugh, throw it back. He’s completely in the wrong and his behaviour now is definitely red flag territory.

We split as we was having loads of arguments and also the lack of support from his side as a parent I was just exhausted and needed a break. I thought we could work things through that’s why we got back together but clearly not

Why does he keep asking? You didn't meet anyone and you weren't together anyway. I'd tell him he either lets this go and moves on afresh or you walk away. You were both single at the time, you can either accept that period happened or don't. I don't agree with lying or asking but I think you've asked and need to accept each others' answers.

Why did you break up, and why did you get back together? It seems as if there are some core issues in your relationship that haven’t been resolved. I think you need to seriously consider whether you want to be with someone who treats you like this.

He's an arsehole. Dump.

Sounds like he isn't going to believe you unless you tell him in intimate detail what you did with him (which obviously you wont/can't because you never met him!!). I'd stay split up because otherwise he will keep bringing this up (even though there is nothing to bring up!!). I'd also take it as projecting somewhat because he knows he Did see someone else while you were apart.

Misogynistic creep with double standards. Not a good person.

Tell him he must be some kind of pervert because he's obsessed with finding out what went on between you and another man in the past.

Or ask him if he's trying to get tips on how to have a telephone/computer relationship without actually meeting.

You split for a reason. You’ve tried to resolve things but that’s not working out so it’s time to split for good imo

Why would you want to be with someone angry and aggressive? Why not find someone kind who makes your life happier and easier?

You're not in the wrong. You know you're not. He'll use this as a stick to beat you with. How he can look at you with a straight face giving you a hard time for talking to someone you didn't even meet when he had sex with someone, and you're giving him what he wants. Madness.

Also, you gave a child. Why would you choose to bring an angry bully into their life?

You’ve given him a second chance and he’s angry, controlling and aggressive. Second chance over! Bin him. You’ve done nothing wrong, you shouldn’t have to explain, let alone be shouted at. He’s not good enough.

So he meets and has sex with someone else during your split. That's perfectly OK in his eyes. You chat to someone, don't meet them or have sex, yet you're a liar!! He either stops asking for details you can't give him and draws a line under your split or he leaves. I wouldn't put up with this.