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[Rainbow988]

Mums who left their husband's did you leave when he was at work or at home and did he try stopping you from leaving him

@Rainbow988 what is your concern?

Did you leave your husband and the martial house and if so did he try stopping you from leaving

Hi @Rainbow988

I left while he was out. It was safer.

Do you have children with him

if it’s an emergency wait till he’s at work - grab your DC and important stuff like paperwork, passport, DC favourite toys, then clothes etc then just go to the police and their social worker will figure things out for you

Yes do it when he is at work. Less stressful than when he is there, trying to stop u or putting doubts into ur head.

Yes. I went to their schools and took them with me. I explained to the staff that I was fleeing domestic violence.

I went to my sister's.

sorry @Rainbow988, just to clarify, are you worried that depending on when/if you leave, you could be endangered if he was there?

Do you have family/friend to be with you?

Did the staff let you take them

And how old are the children

Yes, of course. They couldn't stop me, could they?
They were 4 and 6.
That was many years ago.

i left when he was at work... it was wrong, i should have stayed and explained in person. alas my husband did not come looking for me! i regret how i did it, i don't regret doing it.

@Rainbow988 are you in danger at the moment?
I can sense so much fear in your posts.

You need a plan for where you're taking your children. I went to my sister's and enrolled the children in schools temporarily, for about half a term.

Eventually, I returned to my own place and the children went back to their own schools.

In the meantime, I went to court and the judge ordered my husband to leave our flat, and gave me interim custody of the children.

If I'd stayed to explain I'd have been badly beaten up.
I'd had ten years of it, and I'd left him several times before, but never with the children.

Eventually, I had to. I couldn't bear it any longer.

sorry to hear this..