I am 36F and my boyfriend is 36 also, we have been dating for 16 months, we have two children each from previous relationships and do not live together, we see each other 3 times a week which sounds like a lot on paper but in reality, quality time is non existent. My partners schedule is very hectic - he works from 5am-2pm, finishes work has a shower then picks his children up from school at 3pm and drops them back off at their mums house around half 7 St night - he does this 6 days a week and also coaches their football team twice a week from 5pm-7.30 and coaches their weekend games on a Saturday and Sunday from 9am-12pm. In the three days a week he is over at my house ( 2 of these nights he arrives after 7pm onwards) he is often sleeping for around 9.30-10.30 pm, if he is not sleeping, he spends an hour on his phone sorting out the football sessions and matches as he is the Head coach. It makes me feel like our time together is not a priority and that I'm just being slotted into his schedule, I completely understand he is tired from everything he does in a day and frequently communicate to him that he is burning the candle at both ends and needs to make time for himself as he is heading for burnout but it ends up in an argument and him getting defensive about being tired and that ends up making me feel like I'm asking for too much when really I'm asking him for quality time which is the bare minimum to sustain a relationship long term. I have a stressful job as a teacher, up for work at 6.15 every morning, have 2 children of my own to look after and a household to run but still manage to fit in time for my partner. I'm at a loss on what to do here. Any advice?