Right, I feel a bit daft even writing this, but I’ve no one nearby to talk to and it’s playing on my mind.
I’ve been seeing this lad for a couple of months. At first he was all over me – texting loads, dead cuddly, couldn’t do enough for me. But these last couple of weeks he’s proper cooled off. Hardly any intimacy, and he won’t go down on me anymore (sorry if that’s TMI). Always says he’s tired or stressed.
He’s suddenly glued to his phone, always taking calls outside or turning away when he’s texting. He’s started going out for these late-night “walks” on his own, which he never did before. If I ask what he’s been up to, he either gets cagey or just changes the subject. I found a condom in his work washbag the other day – not even the brand we’ve used. He just laughed it off and said it’s been there ages, but I’m not daft.
Saw his mate in the shop and he couldn’t get away quick enough. Then, in the pub loos last weekend, I overheard a couple of women in the next cubicle talking about him. Didn’t catch what they said, but I definitely heard his name and my stomach just dropped. Wish I’d had the guts to ask what they were on about, but I just froze. It might have been nothing.
I don’t really know anyone round here yet and my mum’s getting on, so I don’t want to worry her. All my good mates are miles away or living abroad, so I can’t just pop round for a chat and a brew. My ex-husband cheated on me, so maybe I’m just damaged goods and reading too much into things.
Maybe I’m being unfair to this new bloke. It’s only been a couple of months. Maybe I should just sack it off and move on? Just feels a shame, as I thought there was something there and I’d not dated for ages before this.
Am I being daft or would this set anyone else’s alarm bells off? Anyone had owt similar?