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Hate my life and my partner please help

7 replies

Listenforear · 31/05/2025 19:28

this is my first post on here so please be kind…
me and my partner have been together 17 years and we have 2 children and a third on the way (was not planned) my eldest who is 7 has autism but severe in nappies can’t feed him self can’t talk and lashes out alot scratching and hair pulling, all I have is my dad as I lost my mum my best friend my world a year and a half ago and my dad moved in with us. We don’t have any help don’t do anything together it’s a right shit life if I am honest I feel like a carer and that all my life will ever be. I really don’t like my partner any more he is so miserable all the time, he is a really good dad but I can’t stand to be with him he makes me miserable 90% of the time and he always has a go and talks to me like a child, I feel so trapped I have no idea what to do as we have a mortgage and my dad lives with us, we argue every day and the way he talks to me like he will say things like “you need to be held accountable” like if I’m a child or an employee he never does anything special for me well he never has, I just feel is that it for me that’s my life is to be miserable and to be a care for the rest of my life??? I also miss my mum so much she was my rock my everything.

OP posts:
whatonearthishappenin · 31/05/2025 19:33

I think you already know that the only way out of this is to leave… you shouldn’t feel guilty about that

Rockdaylia44 · 23/05/2026 17:17

You need to make plans to leave your life doesn't have to be like this. Is your father able to support you with this.

TFImBackIn · 23/05/2026 17:19

Has it got worse since your dad moved in? If you moved out would you want your dad to still live with you?

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 23/05/2026 17:31

That sounds really tough. I don’t believe a man can be a good dad if he models treating women so poorly. You deserve better. Leave him.

WildEnergySupplier · 23/05/2026 17:34

Why has this thread come back after a year?

rubyslippers · 23/05/2026 17:35

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 23/05/2026 17:37

WildEnergySupplier · 23/05/2026 17:34

Why has this thread come back after a year?

Didn’t even realise. With so few posts, didn’t even check the date. 🤦‍♀️

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