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NC with family member

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Caramilky · 31/05/2025 11:50

I went NC with a family member 5 years ago but due to living in the same area I still occasionally run into them. For example yesterday I took my children to a local play park and they happened to be there (wasn’t expecting them to as they have no children) they approached me and unfortunately to say I left immediately which I’m kind of annoyed about and kids were upset having to leave but I couldn’t face staying there with them there.

Those of you that are NC what do you do if you see the person, do you leave? They haven’t accepted that I don’t want to talk to them anymore and often still try to contact me so thinking about moving away but that isn’t an easy option.

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Caramilky · 03/06/2025 22:18

Thanks all, luckily that poster hasn’t bothered me they clearly have their own agenda and perhaps their family has gone NC with them can’t think why, they seem lovely 🙄 ive forgiven this person for a lot of things even when she use to beat me up but I draw the line at attacking me in front of my children, my job is to safeguard them and I can’t bring them up to think that’s normal or acceptable and we must be civil to them. I wonder if they would say the same if it was a partner or is it only family we should accept abuse from? Best thing I can do is move where I won’t have to run into them anymore I wanted to do this anyway and we have no shared family/ friends so no reason to ever see them again.

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daisyb2 · 03/06/2025 22:50

Wowwee1234 · 02/06/2025 22:25

NC is the most vicious and awful thing to do to someone. Of course they are "not respecting it". Would you (really???) if the boot was on the other foot?

How about you get support for you both instead!!!! I know it's a huge trend but to have your heart ripped out but a family member is appalling, cruel, selfish. Time we start to call NC out and encourage more people to work on our problems.

You can always be just a bit civil and have other boundaries.

You can go NC with whoever you want? If you simply do not want to ever speak to someone again then you are absolutely entitled to cut them off. What makes you think people want support, or want to work things out ? OP doesn’t owe anyone anything, especially not an abuser, lot of shit you are talking.

Mayspring · 04/06/2025 08:15

Caramilky · 03/06/2025 22:18

Thanks all, luckily that poster hasn’t bothered me they clearly have their own agenda and perhaps their family has gone NC with them can’t think why, they seem lovely 🙄 ive forgiven this person for a lot of things even when she use to beat me up but I draw the line at attacking me in front of my children, my job is to safeguard them and I can’t bring them up to think that’s normal or acceptable and we must be civil to them. I wonder if they would say the same if it was a partner or is it only family we should accept abuse from? Best thing I can do is move where I won’t have to run into them anymore I wanted to do this anyway and we have no shared family/ friends so no reason to ever see them again.

Certainly seems that way, and does not have the self awareness yo sit back, self reflect and think “what did I do yo push someone this far?” Im sorry that someone has been so cruel towards you, you are 100% doing the right thing for your own mental well-being. Good luck with whatever you decide to do :)

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