When to end things?

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I’ve been seeing a guy for 5-6 months. He’s my dream guy, but there’s lots of complications, and I’m just not sure I’m willing to take the risk anymore. Sorry for the vagueness of my post. I’m feeling miserable and I think I just want to end it. But when? I have very important work meetings next week, so not sure I can take the upset then - I am sensitive. He’s also started a very senior and demanding job, so I want to be careful and reduce any upset I may cause him. He’s a good guy and he’s been through a lot lately. He looks after his elderly mum and shares custody of his kids 50-50.

I am really struggling to find a good time to do this and I don’t want to feel this burden anymore.

Help?

Why prolong it? End it now.

He’s not your dream guy
you’re miserable and want to end it
end it now. Your work will be a good distraction

Because he’s looking after his elderly parent and his kids this weekend. Then I have a very intense week next week at work, and so does he. Then he has his kids next weekend again.

I guess I’m trying to find a good time but not sure there’s going to be…

He is my dream guy
But his situation isn’t
so it’s not him, if that makes sense, and I’m clarifying as I will be very upset to do this and after it

No it doesn’t make sense as everything is so vague in your post
bottom line is you’re miserable and frankly even from your post I wouldn’t be looking to get emeshed - he’s a carer, divorced / separated with kids (who will or should be his priority) and a stressful job
at 5 months in you should be on cloud 9
but you can leave a relationship for any reason and that includes it’s not working.

There is never a good time as there is always a reason to put it off. I think you just need to do it now and stop over thinking it. People are very resilient so you both will probably deal with better than you are anticipating.

You are making excuses.

just rip the plaster off and do it

you are both adults !

Acrually I think the OP is right to to plan it, in this case (I’d normally take a rip the plaster off now approach)
There’s no need to disrupt the care of other people who depend on him, it’d inevitably be a negative experience for his parent and DC; they don’t need to be involved.
Also I would avoid any risk to the jobs; if the week is going to be stressful anyway, adding to that isn’t going to help anyone.
So that means it’ll be much more practical & considerate to split
up in a couple of weeks time.

This. If you wait for the perfect time it'll never happen.

So, if you can keep a lid on it for two weeks, then do it.

if not, do it now.

personally, I know I am not able to do this and I end up blurting things out when I have had enough, which is never good, so I prefer to say as soon as my mind is made up.

also, communication is key. Maybe if you share your concerns/dealbreakers with him, there is a solution?

I wouldn't have the patience to wait tbh. I get you have a tough work week out and about but if he's home with the kids and parents then surely it's the best time to tell him. Gives you the rest of the weekend to have a little cry and some ice-cream and decompress.

It's 5 months in so a phonecall break up is fine btw. It shouldn't be some big intense thing this early.