So we’re both retired late 60’s
Ive always been the one to do things round the house like, windows, shower cubicle, toilet & floor, dust, wipe down ,
outside cleans path, weeding etc
He never thinks these things need doing !
He will do, bins , hoover, kitchen dishes, clothes wash.
will go to shop around 29am expecting me to know what’s wanted, but won’t do full shop at once just goes everyday.
so here’s the main problem
He goes shop in morning , comes back has his lunch and then ask do I want to go anywhere
if I say no , he will go out himself for a coffee mainly then comes back later and sits on his phone
He never ever thinks things need doing around the house and outside
so I end up doing them because basically I can’t stand to see them get bad ( keep on top, less time when built up)
How come I can see things , yet he’s oblivious to dirt etc . A man thing ?
I have chats with myself and just say do it yourself
then whilst doing it get angry inside and think
why is it only I do it can see it , if I speak to him about it he gets in the defensive side and will say
oh and I do nothing , he must know things havnt been cleaned he’s not blind .
Do men not know floors need mopping, toilets need cleaning, bedding needs washing etc ?
How do I stop winding myself up about this ?
it’s making me feel like jekel & Hyde mood wise
anyone ??