Am I wrong? Will this lead to divorce?

[DaringBird23]

Hi guys

i have a quick question. So my husband has a habit of making decisions that put me into pressure. Well I have loans from school that I am paying back also because of my husband I am paying additional loan that he once used up. He also has his loan from his credit cards that he’s paying and we have a car that we have on finance. So what happen is that I am working and trying to pay off my college and his loan that he used from my credit card. We already paying for our car, but now he financed a brand new seven seater suv. I don’t know whats happening because like we are already in so much debt and he ended up falling into more debt by financing the suv. Hes also putting me into pressure because I will have to pay for the suv as well. I am just lost and confused regarding our relationship.

Give back the cars, buy an outright run around that you don't own money on, dont agree to anymore finance or loans. Close down all credit cards and dont agree to open more. Whatever else your partner opens you dont have your name attached to it and dont pay it. Make your partner pay for all the lines of credit he has accumulated. If he has to work over time or extra days then that is what he has to do. Iv just gone through something similar, my husband is bad with money and sent us into a lot of debt for absolutelty no reason what so ever and there is nothing to show for it, he actually quite literally wiped us clean and he dragged my name through the mud as in it effected me big time with credit and so forth. I cant wrap my head around how and why he did it and its not because he is a bad guy, he is actually an amazing man but everyone has their down sides and obviously finances is my husbands down fall. So now I make sure he has no access to excess money, i opened a savings account he is unable to access, and he has to work extra days and over time to fix what he has done. I over see where all the money goes and all decisions run through me until we are out of debt. We sat down and had a big conversations around finances and what we each expect from one another and talked about how we get out of the mess and never end up here again. I think your partner knows your going to get him out of trouble so you need to take a step back and make him have the responsibility of his actions. In my case I shut everything down that my husband could access.