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Breaking up pregnant

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Isabellemac · 31/05/2025 01:00

I’m 4 weeks & 4 days pregnant. Just found my partner has been messaging other women on Twitter. I feel a complete tw*t a bit worried about the stress of a breakup and its effect on my pregnancy. We dated when we were younger and he constantly did the same things then, he is obviously deeply insecure & desperate for attention. I really love him but don’t think I can resign myself to a life of paranoia about where he is and what he’s doing. He’s offered to come off social media but I feel like this will just be used against me like I’m some ‘psycho girlfriend’ that’s forced him to come off social media as he would never tell anyone the truth & also there are many more opportunities for him to cheat, when he’s at work, when he’s at the pub, when he’s on a lads holiday. All risks I just cba to take. I suppose I’m looking for reassurance I’m doing the right thing & I’ll be okay.

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YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 31/05/2025 01:19

You're doing the right thing, run run run!🏃‍♂️

Itsrainingthankgoodness · 31/05/2025 05:33

Breaking up will be stressful OP but if you stay with this man you are setting yourself up for a whole future of stress.

He has shown you this isn't "one off" behaviour- he has history for seeking validation from other women. You will never be able to trust him.

You will be fine OP. Just concentrate on looking after yourself and your wee baby.
He is a fool and he doesn't deserve you.

Renabrook · 31/05/2025 05:43

So you knew what he was like before so you thought having a baby with him was a great idea? Other than leave not sure what else anyone else can say, but this is your child's father now

Miraclemuma03 · 31/05/2025 05:49

Leaving now will be a lot easier then trying to leave with a little one at toe and finding out he is still cheating. He is showing you who he really is and has proven in the past he isn't going to change. Sorry you have to go through this especially while in early pregnancy.

abracadabra1980 · 31/05/2025 05:50

Men like this never change. Ever. You have chosen to be a single parent because you knew what he was like before you got pregnant. You will now have to co parent with him for many years. Sad for your unborn child but you will manage, millions of women do.

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Isabellemac · 31/05/2025 08:47

Renabrook · 31/05/2025 05:43

So you knew what he was like before so you thought having a baby with him was a great idea? Other than leave not sure what else anyone else can say, but this is your child's father now

To the judgemental comments we dated when we were teenagers, you expect somebody to change from their teenage years to their 30s but I suppose some strange women just enjoy tearing others down, especially when they’re feeling vulnerable. @abracadabra1980

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FrogFairy · 31/05/2025 14:41

End it, you deserve so much more than this.

Also it is early days in your pregnancy so you have options.

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