Boyfriend spent Birthday without me

[Raluca87]

Hello everyone, My boyfriend and me are together since December last year, also 6 Months. He recently had birthday (he went 46, I am 38) and decided to spend his birthday at his home, he just invited his parents to his home and cooked very nice for them (he sent ne a picture of it). I asked him if he wants to meet on his birthday and he said „maybe in the evening, after my parents leave“. But he did not invite me anymore to his place after his parents left. I bought a gift for him and hoped I could give it to him on his birthday. I feel so angry and sad. I mean he is 45! At this age still spending his birthday with parents and ignoring girlfriend? Do you have some advice?

I think it’s fine had had dinner with his parents. Match the energy you get though OP. Running to him with a present when he didn’t prioritize you suggests you’re putting in a lot more emotional effort than he is.

I think the significance of this depends on how your relationship is generally.

It’s normal that you wanted to be with him on his birthday, however, some people really don’t care much about their birthdays - DH is like that. I’ve had commitments which have meant I was elsewhere on his birthday and he’s been completely unbothered. And that has been the case throughout our relationship and despite the fact that we’ve always done loads of things together.

So your BF could be like that and genuinely not really see what the fuss is about. If you and he have been spending loads of time together, he might see this as his opportunity to spend a bit of time with his parents (though I agree it could have been his chance to introduce you to them if you’ve not already met).

However, if he is generally quite detached and happy to let you make the running on when you get together etc and/or if he seems to regard birthdays as a big deal and significant, then this probably is an indication that he’s not as committed as you are.

Do you know you’re talking to yourself?

6 months…. I don’t think he see you’re relationship as serious

That's so funny 😂

No I think it's ridiculous of a 38 year old woman to make a post about a 45 year old man just wanting to have dinner with his parents on his birthday and being upset about not seeing him. Not all adults make a big deal about birthdays.

She says 6 months boyfriend, probably see each other once a week.

Fair point

Are you doing something with him over the weekend or on another night for his birth day? If so I don’t t think it’s an issue that he spent his birthday with his parents
In his 40’s he has no idea how many more birthdays he’ll get to spend with them.

I do

lol, just bc I can’t figure out what the quotes or whatever just make me not know how to use the site, man, big bullies on this site

Gyozas, you’re so much smarter than me. Omg. Go crawl back into your black hole.

It's his birthday so it should be about him, not you... if you want to celebrate your birthday a particular way you should tell him, but you don't get to tell him how he his shoul want to spend his birthday!!

Birthdays just aren't a big deal to some people 🤷🏼‍♀️

you do?
or did the quote the wrong person
i dont think anyone bullied you,
it was very funny

This is the first time I've seen a poster arguing with oneself! So funny 🤣

So what happened in the end

He's not that into you.
Find a new boyfriend who likes you

Have you met his parents?

Men who do not want to see you birthdays, Christmas, new years, valentine's… are an immediate next. He’s not interested in you. I would end it

Yeah. This is always a good idea.