Finally

[Missy1313]

So after years of hurt and not all bad iv finally ended a 11 year relative at 48 years old !! Can I ask how you stop guilt making you feel bad for doing it? P.s I never caused the hurt he did but has made up for it I just can't get past the hurt and it's destroyed me emotionally ( iv severe anxiety) help me stop guilt taking him back

You don't owe the guy a relationship.

If he had treated you well, presumably you'd still be together, but he chose to behave badly. The break up is on him, not you.

You don't owe him more chances. He's had 11 years of your life already.

Thank you I needed that 🙏 x

Therapy, helped me massively. It wasn't your fault, even if he'd been a nice guy and done nothing wrong you can still end a relationship you're not happy in. Took me months buy the guilt eventually ebbed

Thanks I do have really cribbling anxiety but I know it's right , it's just hard x

You flip the negatives into positives.
Now I'll potentially meet someone who adores me,
I'm worthy of finding someone who adores me.

You can add extras to the list.

But for now, feel sorry for yourself, have comfort food. Cry...a lot.

Eventually, you will see a brighter future.

Oh and also always remember that you are worthy to accept nothing but true adoration from someone. This relationship taught you what you wont accept.

It takes time. Sometimes far longer than you’d think - to get over something you’ve invested so much time in. Don’t rush yourself - don’t think about going back- definitely don’t feel guilty - and don’t invest again until you’re really ready. Love yourself x

Sometimes you can’t get over the original obstacle and it won’t leave your mind no matter how much you try. It sounds like you tried, it didn’t work. It doesn’t make you a bad person. He did too little too late. You can’t help how you feel, you’re all good.