I’ve been dating a guy for 6 weeks now had around 8 dates, the dates have all been amazing, very attentive etc. He went away for 2 weeks and before he went away he said ‘we’ll stay in touch’ - so I wasent expecting much contact. But he messaged a lot every day sending pics and wanting to talk.
We met Weds night for a nice meal and after a few drinks I suggested going back to his (as he never initiates that). Had an amazing night, then he dropped me home yday morning (Thursday)
However, he’s not messaged since he dropped me off (I know it was only yesterday!) I noticed as soon as he got back from holiday on the Monday he said I will see you on Weds and didn’t message until the Weds.
i was out all day Weds and had not replied to his messages about where we would be going so he sent a message later saying ‘don’t feel obliged to go on the date if you’re tired’ I know it’s silly to read someone by their texting but on messages he’s really pulled back this last week.
Im very cautious as I’ve dated plenty of idiots, so when he was saying he prefers to be in a relationship, even though I do too, I didn’t say that and I said it’s really nice having freedom and I don’t know whether that’s put him off. I do like my freedom but would also like a relationship.
When guys have said this in the past so early on, I’ve let my guard down and said I want the same and they disappear and I’ve been hurt in the past.
Im going away on holiday today so won’t see him until next week now - he’s booked us a spa break next weekend. I don’t know whether to message him or wait until he messages or just accept he’s loosing interest.