I don't know if it is still my post partum hormones making me feel this way or if it's genuine but I have just built up so much resentment towards my DH lately.
For some context: We have two children a two year old and 3 month old. I have the higher paying job so when we had our first baby the decision was made that my DH would stay home once my maternity leave finished. When we were expecting baby no2 we discussed him returning to work as we would need him to due to my maternity pay.
Ever since he returned to work he has just been quite an unpleasant person to be around. I am trying to be patient and understand that maybe it's just because he was out of work almost a year and a half but as time goes on my empathy is disappearing and I'm just annoyed. He has always found the working environment a bit harder to cope with, he was like this before we had children. He just seems to have very little coping skills and takes things to heart when they are not. He copes with stress by talking about it very angrily or repeatedly, he can't seem to look at things with any sense of perspective.
I worked until the week before I gave birth with both babies. I was always my toddlers go to even when I was working so I'd deal with work and go straight into default parent mode when home etc. Whereas he just can't seem to cope at all.
He has returned to do the exact same job I was doing before maternity. He is a massive stress head, constantly taking things personally at work, bringing stress home. When home he just seems to disengage a lot, doesn't seem to get much joy out of the kids, impatient with our toddler. Will be on his phone playing games and not listening when anyone talks to him. I constantly have to say things multiple times to him, which makes me cross at him. I dunno I'm just finding him very off putting lately?! I coped with work heavily pregnant and would come home to a toddler and still found it in me to be a present parent.
I try and say things like they are only young once etc. and it goes in one ear and out the other.
When my maternity leave finishes he gets to stay off again and that also plays a part in me feeling so resentful because I don't feel like he deserves it 😂. He can't cope with a few months work without being so stressy??