DH never compliments me anymore , is that normal?

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Weve got two under two and I’ve just lost a huge amount of weight after last baby, I’ve gone back to a size 10 from a 16/18.
Ive had countless compliments and praise of people around me, even school mums I’ve barely spoken to.I feel better that’s all that matters. However, I’ve noticed my DH hasn’t even aknowleged my weightloss. He hasn’t said a word. I’ve bought loads of new clothes and worn them but he hasn’t batted an eye lid. He stopped complimenting me before our first baby. I don’t know how to feel about it?

Mine has always been like this, fat, thin, in a boiler suit or evening dress, he doesn't notice. I nearly sent myself a card and a bunch flowers on valentine's day once to see if that would stir him up.

You're part of the furniture now. Now my friend had a husband that totally spoilt her. Trouble was he also spoilt another woman

I don't have an answer for you. My husband still fancied me in the bedroom though.

Yes that would bother me. It could be he didn't want to draw too much attention to the weight loss as he loves you either way and thinks you always look beautiful. And men don't always notice new clothes either. Having said that, my DP usually notices new clothes I'm wearing and regularly compliments me most days. Maybe sit down and tell him how you feel. But also, how often do you compliment him?

It depends, doesn't it? He could be the sort of person who doesn't notice what you look like, even though we're told all the time that men are visual creatures. It could be that he doesn't like the fact that you've lost weight or getting attention for whatever reason. Does he make any negative comments?

I think it depends on the person, my ex stopped complimenting me after the honeymoon period, it just wasn’t his thing. My now DH still comliments me after 10 years of marriage.

That would really hurt my feelings to be honest. My dh often compliments me and when he comes home
from work often says “you look nice” but I’ve lost weight recently (Mounjaro) and his compliments now hit deeper. He will say things like “you look beautiful today” or “you look really lovely”. Little changes to his phrases so they land harder. If your dh used to offer compliments I’d question why he isn’t. How is your relationship as a whole? Do you compliment him?

I'd take it as a compliment that he hasn't really noticed. My dh has recently had a health kick and was boasting about how he had lost a few stone and how hard it was. I reminded him that I had dieted for years between DC and managed to lose 4 stone and keep it off. He looked so confused. He has NO idea I had gotten bigger/smaller.

OP: He always used to compliment me, before our first child
Posters: Maybe he's just not that kind of person?

How did you tend to respond to compliments when he did used to compliment you?

I stopped because DP always used to respond negatively. "You're beautiful", "No I'm not, I'm getting wrinkles" or "You look nice in that top" "You can see my belly too much in it"

I didn't particularly enjoy being told how I felt wasn't true, and I assumed that DP wasn't getting much from them either if she was so negative about it so I just stopped.

A couple of years later she complained that I never complimented her any more so I explained why. So now I compliment her again and she (attempts to) take it in the spirit its intended.