Am I a hopeless romantic?!?!

[IntraDanca]

So a bit of a backstory about me. I'm a pretty outgoing guy, I have many friends that I see from time to time but I like being alone also. I would say I'm a pretty introvertive person. Im 25 years old, don't really know how to talk to girls nor had a relationship ever.

After a few years living with my parents, I've had the opportunity to finally move into my own home in a few months. That lifechanging moment has put some new thoughts in my head. One of those thoughts is setting a priority or at least working towards finding a girlfriend to share this home with and settle down.

Now moving on, I'm friends with a girl for the sake of anonymonity will be called Abby who did participate in a sport activity with me often (not as often anymore). I would say we though of eachother as friends but we only seen eachother while playing the sport. After a while I started asking her to come out to bars and walks and I thought we clicked, we talked a bit more and then I asked the the serious question that I wanted to know her more on a personal level yaddi yaddi yada. She said she'd rather stay friends as she thinks it could ruin what we already have. That was the end of that. Was a bit sad for a day or 2 then I moved on.

Now the main part of the thread. Another girl who I knew from 10 years ago will be called Emily messaged me on insta. And we hit it off very quickly, we were cracking jokes, making subtle flirty comments. Texting for hours which felt so natural. Now, what's the problem then you may ask? She lives 1 and a half hr away from me and I am still undecided whether I would like to take her on a date or actually talk to her romatincally. Basically showing her my intentions but I'm scared because I'm not sure of my intentions right now. I feel like I'm hurting the relationship by pointlessly flirting with her even though I'm unsure if she'll ever be the one. (Basically the distance is the biggest deal-breaker. If she lived close to me, I would have seen her multiple times already). Should I tell her how I feel about this but I also I worry that if I tell her my true intentions and feeling about her then she could downplay it and be like; awkk I was just having fun, we're friends. Then I'd look like a total dumbass for the second time.

Suggest meeting up.

An hour & a half is nothing when you're 25.

Life is for living.

The worst she can say is no. Sure it'll sting, but you'll get over it.

I'm unsure if she'll ever be the one.

Most people take it in stages, they date first then after a few years decide if they're 'the one'.

If she's flirting with you, then she's interested. If you're also interested then go and see her and see how it goes.

Suggest meeting for a coffee and a walk. Or some interest you have in common that isn’t the sport (so she knows it’s social not just exercise). See if you feel a spark. See if she feels a spark. Fine if not: you're practising talking to a woman, which is sounds like you feel you need.

Do not under any circs tell her all the stuff in this post about settling down in your new house but not being sure if she’s the one, as a preamble to a coffee. She’ll run a mile, however romantic her feelings might otherwise have been.

No, coffee and a walk is a bit dull. They're early 20s, not middle aged, and an hour and a half isn't that far, but it's a long way to travel for a Costa 😂

Ask her out to do something a bit more inspiring.

On the basis of your post which contains nothing romantic I would say no!

Good luck

An hour and a half is nothing. Me & ex lived an hour and a half from each other when we met. I moved in with him. My now partner lives an hour away. He stays at my house 4 nights a week.

If you click with someone distance doesn't matter. We juggle it with both working and 5 kids so am sure you will manage. Life is short so go for it. If you scared of saying the word date. Then why not suggest meeting half way and do something fun like bowling