Newly single parent with a baby

[JG1992]

My relationship has completely broken down and I am now a single mum of a 6 month old baby. The break up has been awful and due to the reasons for the breakup his access will be very very limited. Has anyone navigated becoming a single parent recently aswell as the heartbreak of a relationship ending? It’s so much for me to process and I have no idea how I’m going to cope. I’m financially independent and own the house so I don’t really have that stress. It’s more the feeling alone, no one to navigate the hard times with, parenting alone and the normal excruciating sadness of a breakup. Help ☹️

I was in a similar situation. I sort of shrank my world down to what I could cope with at the time, which was work and ds. I spent 6 months during which my world consisted of work, spending time with baby ds, going to the park, feeding the ducks, reading, cooking, trying new recipes, music, yoga, weekends hiking with ds in a sling, and just the general process of quiet life without any stress. No arguing, no criticism, no bullying, no conflict.

Evenings spent by myself after ds was in bed. Self care, manicures & pedicures, I got loads of sleep and got my balance back.

After about 5 months, and spring arrived, I started going out again.

Please take care of you and the baby, I had preeclampsia when he slammed the door at the high risk doctor and that was it. Healthy and happy baby. It's tough but please be patient because it's everything when you see that baby for the first time. Sending the best

@Meadowfinch Thankyou for replying. This is my first night “single” as it all hit the fan yesterday. I think I will end up doing similar to you and just doing lots of dog walks and little bits with the baby. I already feel this crippling anxiety like what about when baby is ill and I’m alone? Who will help with things in the house? Who do I talk to about her constantly?! What next. It’s awful

I’ve recently become a single mum and have too much time on my hands due to 50/50 childcare. I’d love to meet someone like you in my area, team up and help out. I would suggest posting similar on local mums groups (or posting your area here ) as there may well be mums close to you that you could make some really helpful links with.

OP, from experience, make sure you keep a baby thermometer and a supply of calpol or baby nurofen in stock. Always have a charged mobile phone, and register with a GP nearby.

Have a look at the GingerBread web site.

Try to get to know other single mums in the area so you have some adult conversation. Get to know them well, and when you do finally feel like going out again, you can go all together, or babysit for each other when you get to wanting to date again.

It will happen, give it time.

How are you getting on OP?