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Advice please

5 replies

ForBrickSnake · 27/05/2025 22:56

Need a rant. My husband's family are quite opinionated and I've had to listen to some stuff that's raised my blood pressure over the years. You can have an opinion just not the opposite to theirs. I think it's made worse by the fact they live far away so we have to stay with them when we visit. The few times I speak up like today you could cut the air with a knife. My inlaws talk (not always) at me like I'm an idiot, I'm in my 50s! My mother knows everything. It's ridiculous. For example I've had Indian food because I've been there and said it tastes completely different but no she had an Indian friend so she's had proper Indian food. If you are thinking about buying something she will tell you how crap it is because she knew someone blah blah. Am I being daft and over sensitive

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TipsyJoker · 27/05/2025 23:45

No You’re not they are rude. I personally would just be the thorn in their side but I can be petty like that. I would just keep voicing my opinion regardless of what they think. You’re allowed an opinion. And the mother sounds like an overbearing, disrespectful, narcissist.

Seaoftroubles · 28/05/2025 07:03

You are not daft or over sensitive! Luckily your in laws are far away but when you visit make sure you do not stay in their home. Don't accept them being rude, pull them up on it every time.
As for your mother, go low contact and grey rock her. Don't give her the opportunity to undermine you, brief neutral responses are the way forward. Sounds like she thrives on being argumentative so don't reward her by giving her the opportunity to engage in one upmanship.

Gonk123 · 28/05/2025 07:06

Did you mean mother or mother in law?
I just wouldn’t stay at theirs, book a hotel - premier in is cheap enough. Then you can escape for a breather!

kalokagathos · 28/05/2025 07:38

For me, things like that come in through one ear, come out the other whilst I whistle . I wouldn’t treat anything they say as serious

AttilaTheMeerkat · 28/05/2025 08:04

No you are not being daft or over sensitive. Whatever gave you that idea; likely an impression your inlaws have given you by telling you. You have a choice re them and you do not have to see them at all. I would not give them an audience and I'd keep the kids well away from them too.

What does your H think of his parents behaviour?. Has he ever challenged their assertions also or does he sit there silent and or default into child mode in their presence?.

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