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Feeling Alone & Resentful – Is This Normal??

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mumofone197 · 27/05/2025 22:47

Hi everyone,
I’m a first-time mum and have been really struggling lately. My partner works away a lot, so I’m home with our baby on my own most of the time. I’m juggling looking after the baby, running the house, and trying to build my own business—but I feel completely burnt out and invisible.

What’s been getting to me even more is my partner’s family. He has a brother who also has a child, and it feels like their whole family revolves around that child. They visit him, talk about him, constantly ask how he’s doing—but they never ask about my baby. They don’t check in on me either, even though they know I’m doing everything on my own most days.

My partner agrees it’s unfair, but keeps saying “they do care deep down.” From where I’m standing, it doesn’t feel like it. I honestly feel so angry and bitter about it. I don’t even want them involved anymore—they barely make an effort as it is.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Is it okay for me to feel like this?
How do you deal with being the default parent 24/7 with no support and still having to keep going?

Really appreciate anyone reading this. I just need to know I’m not alone.
Thanks x

OP posts:
Arquebuse · 27/05/2025 23:01

I don’t think it’s realistic to try to build a business without childcare, OP. Are you on maternity leave, or is your business your job? I wouldn’t fixate on your ILs. Your partner is the one who’s your baby’s other parent. If he can’t be around more to parent his child, then he needs to move jobs. If life as a SAHM isn’t suiting you (and I don’t blame you), have a look around jobs yourself?

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