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Knowing it’s over

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NCA250 · 27/05/2025 17:18

Been married over years now and together nearly 15. Over the last few years things have started to change and essentially we no longer get on how we used to.
I think we both know that our relationship is over but we are together for our kids. Neither of us are happy and in all honesty I can’t see anyway back, the not being with my children everyday is what probably what’s holding me back from having the conversation.
In all honesty I’m probably scared to walk away and I was never bothered about marriage until I met my wife.
I don’t even know how I approach the situation or do I just leave it…
Weve had many conversations in the past but it’s all very much the same but the last 6-12months have been the worst it’s been.
I know that if children wasn’t involved the conversation would be easier but am I just worried that they will resent me or will they understand.
I’ve had loads of people comment both friends and family how i don’t seem myself and almost in a shell and not showing the real me.
I know that if I do leave then there will be no going back.
Apologies for the waffle but can anyone else comment that’s been in a similar situation.
Nobody else is involved and my head hasn’t been turned or anything like that but it’s about me being my old self and having potential happiness.

OP posts:
MiloMinderbinder925 · 27/05/2025 17:30

It's definitely worth working on if you have children. Have you thought about couple's counselling or even individual counselling?

Could you be depressed? It might be worth getting a check up and talking to your Dr.

You need to start by having an honest conversation with your wife and seeing if she wants to work on things.

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