Partner gets defensive after I asked him to clean up his mess

[tiredmummm]

hi, yesterday I have cleaned the whole kitchen all the dishes all the kitchen sides. This morning I wake up and my partner left all his sweet wrappers on the side.
I put them in the bin and I asked him If he could put his rubbish away next time and I told him it’s not hard.
He got angry and defensive and told me that he isn’t a child and he doesn’t need to be told to clean up.
I clean up after him all the time and I’m just tired of doing it.

If you “cleaned the whole kitchen all the dishes all the kitchen sides,” and “wake up and my partner left all his sweet wrappers on the side,” plus “clean up after him all the time and I’m just tired of doing it,”—this tells me that you aren’t aligned. He’s not someone who is willing to tidy the dishes and food wrappers between meals, and wants to let everything pile up, until someone else tidies it for him. Are you happy to continue in this role, or is it time to accept that you aren’t compatible?

Molehill. Mountain…..
Crazy reaction from him though. If you can’t easily resolve something this petty, should you be together?

I clean up after him all the time and I’m just tired of doing it.

Is it impossible to stop? What's the division of chores like and is he generally disrespectful?

He got angry and defensive and told me that he isn’t a child and he doesn’t need to be told to clean up.

"And I'm not a cleaner so I won't be cleaning up your endless mess anymore"

Is this the tip of the iceberg?

Well he certainly sounds like a child if he eats sweeties. And hasn't learnt to tidy up after himself
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Does he do anything for himself OP?

I couldn't be bothered living with someone who expected me to be his skivvy.

Just leave his mess.
If you want to be petty make a sign, like an exhibit.
Mr tiredmums sweet wrappers.

People like this aren't worth it. Leave them to fester in their own filthy hovels.

If you don't have DC together there is no point living together, date and live apart and he can live in his own mess.

He got angry and defensive and told me that he isn’t a child and he doesn’t need to be told to clean up.
Er...yes, he does.

He thinks it’s your job to clean up after him because it’s women’s work and he’s went mental about being called on it because he’s training you not to get on his case. If you do, there will be angry consequences. He’s a loser. Dump him and live in peace.

He does not need to be told, he just needs to DO it. Or arrange and pay for a cleaner to do it.

'Well clearly you do, because I've just had to tell you'.