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making amends

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TLV · 21/05/2008 08:50

when dh and I split up (back together now) we have some pretty awful arguments some of which his mother was privy to, I also in my not so good emotional state shouted at her and upset her for which I apologised (was months ago now btw).

Anyhoo dh invited her for something to eat I think to mend some bridges, apparently she didn't know what she what she was doing but he eventually got out of her that she wasn't ready to play "happy families" just yet.

I'm not really sure if I feel upset about this or not and on one hand I can see where she is coming from but on the other as we are back together I think she should realise that I didn't mean to upset her and that we should all move on and infact I think its borderline childish, I didn't say anything to dh about how I felt and nor will I as I don't feel now I should get involved and let things go, he said she will come round eventually. I will just carry on as I have polite and pleasant with her but I really had hoped that she would realise the state I was in when dh walked out (and yes I know her loyalties are with him), she is quite sensitive about things anyway, am I taking the right attitude

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Tortington · 21/05/2008 08:54

can unddertand her tbh,

best to just carry on with thepleasenries.

you are right, her loyalties are wth him and always will be.

you hurt him
you hurt her
you split up

now your back together

she might not gant to get involved incase it doesn't work out

ginnedup · 21/05/2008 17:48

There is nothing else you can do really is there, just hope she comes round.
My mil was great when we split up and I laid into her once (ended up crying and apologising instantly) but it was just the frustration of the whole situation)
I hope she comes round soon!!

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