is this wrong? me and my husband have been married a long time, we are going through a very hard time. We are not getting on at all and to be honest I don’t want to have sex with him, which causes more stress, arguments and tension. Usually it’s just easier to just have sex and avoid the arguments and stop being pestered. But because I am not mentally there it makes the sex really bad, which is making things worse. So we were about to have sex, it had been a good day but the overall context of been in a bad place in the relationship was the same. he blindfolded me and then a couple of seconds in I got a bad feeling, I took the blindfold off looked round and he quickly hid something behind his back, I asked what it was and he showed me it was his phone, he was going to film, I felt annoyed that he hadn’t asked but he shrugged it off and said I would have said no, it makes me feel uneasy that he planned the blindfold so he could film . We have been married a long time but I still feel a bit violated