I've been reading other people's threads on number for a while trying to make sense of my own relationship... I've had my second child with a partner who I already separated with once for being emotionally and physically abusive. Things were good for a while after getting back together and we decided to have a second child. We always framed huge arguments as 'we're doing better than we used to'. However, the yelling and the lack of support has gone back through the roof having had another child. The partner didn't visit me in hospital, yelled at my mother, and blames me whenever i bring something up to him that i have an issue with - no matter how carefully i try to broach an issue, a hint of criticism sets him off. He has smacked our toddler round the head and today pulled him from the car by his arm and locked him in his room because the toddler didn't get out straight away when he was told to. I already know this isn't normal but the difficulty is that I have hope it will be better when we're further from the birth. However, my partner isn't doing much to look after the two kids so it doesn't add up that he's stressed by the new addition. I'm just coming round to the idea that this isn't going to get better and i'm going to have to uproot my whole life and put myself in a really difficult situation with money and housing to protect my kids, especially my oldest. My home is not a safe space for me so when i go to my friends houses i break down sobbing.
I guess I'm just reaching out for support in this brief snippet of what's going on, to help me realise that it's not ok and help me build the courage and certainty to make an exit plan.