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I need advice with my girlfriend, I think she’s left me

9 replies

OneKindExpert · 25/05/2025 00:10

I am currently 28.

I have known this girl for 2 weeks and we had sex. She sent a text saying how bad I was and asked if it was my first time. It was my second time, but my first since I was 18. The reason was that I was falsely arrested for arson when I was 20, but was let out at age 26 after being found innocent.

So, apparently only having sex once is a dealbreaker for her and most women. I’ve asked around and they all said it’s a major dealbreaker. I just got my life back, and now I’m forced to spend it alone?

OP posts:
ThatDenimExpert · 25/05/2025 00:12

Ask her is she wants to improve your sex life

OneKindExpert · 25/05/2025 00:17

ThatDenimExpert · 25/05/2025 00:12

Ask her is she wants to improve your sex life

I will if she gets back to me.

OP posts:
alcoholnightmare · 25/05/2025 00:22

I wouldn’t give her another opportunity personally. You’ve been through prison having been falsely convicted, most of your 20’s taken from you, and are willing to accept such rudeness from a woman youve known two weeks? Nope.
Time to start your next phase of your life with a nice, respectful person who has emotional intelligence.

ButterButterBattle · 25/05/2025 00:22

No, it's not a deal breaker with anyone who is at all human and not just looking to hook up. Just tell her you haven't had much experience, no but you are very willing to get any guidance she can offer.

Of course you aren't forced to spend your life alone. That's a bit of a leap from one bad experience.

glittercunt · 25/05/2025 00:26

She's shown you who she is.

I'd be up front with your next date. But I'd also buy a couple of books about sex and find out what sorts of things women do like.

The right one will come along, but I'd prefer to know up front what to expect because I'd handle the situation differently.

Morningsleepin · 25/05/2025 00:27

Most women aren't looking for someone particularly experienced, we want someone with a good personality who is a considerate lover

Mudflaps · 25/05/2025 00:29

You met a bitch unfortunately. She wasn't your girlfriend either, she was someone you had a date or a few dates with, that's all so don't give her space in your head. And next time you meet someone, take things slowly, get to know them, talk and listen a lot. You've got some catching up to do so relax and enjoy it. I've had good sex, bad sex, really poor sex and absolutely mind blowing sex all with the one person, its not always brilliant and that's fine. Get out there and enjoy yourself, stop thinking about the future so much and enjoy the present, youre still very young.

TrolleySong · 25/05/2025 00:29

Not you again, the guy who likes to come on the internet and tell women about how other women humiliated him for being a virgin or near-virgin.

VoltaireMittyDream · 25/05/2025 00:29

You’re not forced to spend your life alone, FGS. Someone you knew for 2 weeks has turned you down, in not a terribly nice way. Chalk it up to experience and move on.

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