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I am concerned for my sister in law

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Proxima · 24/05/2025 20:40

As the title says I am concerned for her, although I have to admit that I don't know her well.I know that most people will probably tell me that I am crazy because I have only met her a few times but I have alarm bells ringing.

Long story short: my brother lived abroad and has returned to the UK earlier this year with his wife who he met abroad. I normally wouldn't bat an eyelid at this if this wasn't my brother we were talking about plus the fact that the poor girl is way younger than him and expecting.

When I met her it seemed obvious that she hadn't made any real connections in the UK yet or that she had much of a friendship group, and it also seems that she doesn't really have a family support network. I am worried about her and I want to reach out to her to get to know her better without rousing suspicion. My brother and I don't get on well and he'd wonder if I officially asked her out for a coffee or something like this unless I have a good rationale, so I would appreciate ideas to initiate contact in a non suspect way. I might be way off the mark here and very unfair but I would rather be safe than sorry. Thank you

OP posts:
Boggartdreams · 24/05/2025 20:44

I think maybe we need more context about what your brother is like and what concerns you exactly have?

Proxima · 24/05/2025 20:52

Boggartdreams · 24/05/2025 20:44

I think maybe we need more context about what your brother is like and what concerns you exactly have?

My brother is a control freak, paranoid and honestly only cares about himself and his needs. He has done some incredibly shitty things in the past without ever expressing an ounce of remorse (to me and others) and I hate to think what life must be like for a young woman who might be isolated.
As I said I might be completely wrong but I would be surprised if he has changed drastically.

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S0j0urn4r · 24/05/2025 21:16

Shopping trip for baby clothes?

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