Help needed!

[Sparkie2088]

Hi,
My ex completely deleted me off Facebook a few months ago. We had been split a while but always had a fond relationship and our history goes back many years.

I’ve only just realised there is a ‘message request’ above his name in Messenger. What’s confusing me though, is I thought message requests went to a specific folder where you could read them without them knowing but when I go to that folder, there’s nothing from him.

please help! Has anyone experienced this before?

It's because you need to accept or decline. If you accept, you'll see the message. I don't think he'll see that you've accepted. But he'll see when you read it but you might be able to see some of it before clicking?

Did he get a new gf by any chance?

So I pressed accept but nothing was there? I’m so confused! I’m wondering if he never sent a message to start with… but it seems a coincidence of all the people’s names it would appear above

Maybe he sent one but then deleted it.

I’m thinking the same. And now I don’t know what to do. I feel so bad that he could have sent something and thought I’d purposely ignored it for potentially weeks on end, leading to deletion of the message when I genuinely didn’t get notified. Is it worth reaching out to explain or will I look like an idiot if he didn’t send anything to start with?

This sounds like an incredible amount of headspace reserved for an ex who deleted you from Facebook. Your over investment is palpable, why are so concerned about not responding to a person who deleted you from FaceBook in the first place?

Either he was thinking about messaging you but didn't do it in the end and accidentally sent you a blank message. Or its Facebook having a weird glitch.
Or if he did delete it, whatever it was, if he truly meant what he said, he would never have felt the need to delete it.

Don't give him any more headspace as someone who doesn't stick by what they said either isn't sincere or immature and conflicted and too emotionally up and down about it, which would not make them a stable partner.
Sincere messages don't come with a time limit.
I would not reach out to him.