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Daughter not happy I have a new boyfriend

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MummyofoneT · 22/05/2025 08:54

Hi I'd really like some advice. I split from my ex 19 months ago, we moved in to separate houses 8 months ago after having to love together for year whilst the house sold, we have an 8 year old daughter. I met someone 9 months ago and recently told my daughter I am dating someone new just in case she ever saw us out and about, I wasn't going to introduce her yet or anything. She was absolutely fine when I told her but obviously I knew she might be upset once she had processed it.

Last night she asked me about love as she was worried we might stop loving her as we stopped loving each other, it really broke my heart, obviously I explained about the different types of love and that a parents love for their kids never ends etc. I then noticed a message on her phone telling gher dad she was feeling sad becoming of my new boyfriend. I went to bed sobbing and feel like the worst mum in the world ! I'm even contemplating breaking things off with my boyfriend as I don't want to do anything to hurt my daughter after all she's been through, maybe I'm being too selfish dating so soon. Any advice greatly appreciated x

OP posts:
SunnyRiverside · 22/05/2025 08:56

You’re not being selfish at all. She needs to get her head around this brand new situation which is totally normal. Just take it slow and be sensitive to her feelings, but you also deserve to be happy.

FortyElephants · 22/05/2025 08:56

She's just exploring her feelings. Give her plenty of reassurance and make sure the boyfriend doesn't impact on her negatively at all. Don't break up with him for this reason - your daughter is having feelings she needs support with - she doesn't need you to end the relationship.

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