Divorce

[Rainbow988]

Would you leave your husband if he ever stayed a very very huge and very very bad argument with you and during the argument he stayed to smash the kitchen up.and threw plas and cups and glasses and your glasses vares that you got from your mum

Yes.

Yes, next time it will be you that is getting attacked. Get out now.

I’ve been married thirty years and my husband has never deliberately smashed anything so yes I probably would. It’s not acceptable behaviour, whatever the argument was about.

I've seen your other threads OP.

It sounds as though you would be much better ending the marriage.

And given his violence in the argument you've described here I think you need to end things now before things escalate further.

Yes, immediately.

Yes, the moment my husband became verbally and physically abusive I left.

I'd be too scared to stay with him.
You deserve better.

He won't be motivated to learn to be a better person if you just shrug this off.

100% yes.
Surely you would, too?

We have been married for 26 years and together for 32 years and have got 4 children together as well 14 and twin 13 and 10 so it's not easy

Not easy, but your kids deserve better than to be in an unsafe environment.

This is a form of domestic violence. It's traumatising for your dc even if you can't see the effects now.

And it's also teaching them this kind of behaviour is acceptable in relationships. Would you want to see them recreating this relationship model in their own futures?

It sounds like a lot of bottled up anger which next time may be directed at you. it also shows a lack of respect for your home too. I would get rid of him asap before he attacks you

I ended up staying after something like this as a student he smashed our place up and I went back to stay at my mothers he cried on the phone missed me etc I went back and basically staying is crossing over an invisible that ment he could next hit me . Someone who has that much rage inside could turn on you next please think carefully as he will play nice until your trapped now that he has stepped over the line

Neither is living with abuse and exposing your children to it.

Think about what you DH’s behaviour is doing to your kids

Unacceptable behaviour get rid of him

My husband did similar - after one of the teenagers annoyed him.
4 years or so later they still talk about seeing him with blood pouring out his head over the floor after he headbutted the fridge and left a massive dent in it.
They still talk about the broken drawer - which he pulled out in a rage, but then told them it was their fault as they made him do it.

It didn't get better after that. It got worse.
When I ran away we had been married 25 years.

It was hard. But we did it. And we are so much better off because of it.

He is being violent and you are exposing your children to his violence. That is harming them emotionally and mentally and will really screw up their lives, possibly permanently. They don't have a choice and they need you to be a grown up now and protect them from a violent and nasty man. Contact Women's Aid for advice and support, by phone or email.

Seriously OP, you need to get out asap rather than keep posting threads.

Yes. He's abusive. Next time he loses it then it could be you that he hurts.

He has hit me when throwing things

It's domestic violence, OP.

Please speak to local domestic abuse services and get you & dc out of the situation.