I was with my boyfriend before for 3 years. Sex never really took off and then stopped due to ED. He said some critical remarks, dealt with it badly. However, he also used to promise it wasn't me, etc. Once, he did say "not going to lie sweetheart, probably would be different if you were Margot Robbie" at the end of the relationship, he said it was because he'd lost the spark/wasn't in love/the relationship was bad. All these reasons had been related to me that he put on me.
We had a year apart, we both had separate counselling and counselling together. Things are going amazing between us relationship wise. For 6 months we've actually been having sex. Then it's been a bit patchy and he spoke to me a couple days ago.
He said he wanted to be honest. That he knows he treated me so unfairly before and turned it on and was not a nice person but the sex thing is back. He thinks it's related to his bad back, etc. But he wanted to talk to me because he's not going to be doing the things he was for a bit while he figures it out. I said that's okay, just take it off the table for now. No pressure.
But inside, I know it might seem selfish I feel horrendous. I don't know if I can do this. I feel like everything I was so excited and happy about has just gone now. Like I have a timer on it, waiting to find out if the problem is me. Hes promising it's nothing to do with me but all I can think it's like before.
My instant reaction is to want to back away and protect myself, until he figures it out. But I know I should be supportive. But I just have this sick feeling that I am going to be waiting months for him to turn around and say actually yeah, it's because I'm not in love with you. Again.
What would you do.