Need practical tips - coping with loneliness

[TiaMaria47]

Divorced 4 years. Kids 10 and 8. Recently ended my only post divorce relationship - a six month thing, ended due to distance. No drama. Not too sad about not being with him any more. But now I’m so lonely and scared I will be alone forever. Need tips for how to cope with the loneliness, fear of being alone. I want to make my life happy!

Ok bit of tough love here.....change your mindset to start with.... you're not that old if you have two youngish kids ? you've ended a relationship recently allowed to feel a bit down but crikey it's not life threatening! Stop focusing on what you haven't got and start taking steps for the life you DO want....make plans/friends see everything as an adventure there's nothing to be 'frightened ' of.......yes sometimes it's lonely but tomorrow is another day .....pick yourself up brush yourself down ..think your life is amazing it will become that....think it's terrible it will become that .....choice is yours..... hugs

I see this kind of thing quite often but can just thinking your life is "amazing" really just make it amazing?
Surely the OP has some practical issues that go with having young kids & bringing them up alone etc? Just thinking her life is "amazing" isn't going to solve everything is it?
I feel like I am asking that quite genuinely and not being facetious.
Does it really work?

Yes !

Absolutely agree. We are what we think