I've got an 8 month old baby, I broke up with her dad a few weeks after she was born due to him lying to me multiple times during my pregnancy about drugs(and other things too but the drug lies are the worst).
he is still in love with me and I hate being around him and find it really awkward but for my daughter's sake I've stayed as friendly as I could with him and let him come round to see her regularly, but never unsupervised as I cant trust him so he comes to my house. Hes been coming round 2 to 4 times a week for 2-3 hours at a time, I also give him daily updates, photos etc, he messages me every morning asking how she slept, every night asking if she's asleep and then usually multiple times through the day asking how she is. I already felt like this was quite a lot of effort on my part and he never even appreciated it as would often moan about how he "hardly ever sees her" etc and acts shocked and appalled if I told him most women probably wouldn't be letting him come round so often.
Hes fairly useless with our daughter and usually spends most of the time he's here just chatting to me while waving a toy in front of her now and then. If he feeds her I have to keep reminding him to feed her the next mouthful as he just forgets what he's doing because he's too busy talking to me. He's also dropped her before so I don't let him pick her up anymore.
Ive now found out that hes been taking drugs again for the last few weeks (ketamine). I'm not sure exactly how often he is doing it but it's multiple times per week, possibly daily. He insists he's never come round my house while high, I have no idea if that's true. Would I be within my rights to just totally cut off contact? Or should I still let him come round and see her supervised and if so how often? If I do cut off contact should I still send him pics and updates?
I don't really know what to do, i don't want to be a dick but I feel really disrespected that he's lied to my face over and over and I don't think he's really fit to be a father the way he's behaving. I'm also worried he'll take me to court although I guess he won't get very far if he doesn't stop taking drugs. He's not on the birth certificate as I was worried this would happen