I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 9 months. She’s very insecure. She constantly goes on about not being able to trust me etc, (for no reason,(yes I’ve asked why and she can’t answer). I suspect she’s been going through my drawers etc as stuff gets moved around a lot but I haven’t mentioned it to her.
At first I just reassured her and did all the normal things to make her feel safe etc, but I’m starting to get really wound up now. There’s only so many times you can say reassure someone.
Today I went over to see my daughter (20), she lives with her mum and we’ve been divorced several years and she’s been with her current partner for 5 years.
she flew off the handle accusing me of wanting to get back with her etc?
I can see she has some sort of mental health issue, she has very low self esteem but I really love her and want to try and make things work.
today I gave her the number of a therapist and said she had to call and make an appointment. She’s said she doesn’t want to but I’ve think I can’t do anymore myself now.
was I wrong to do this? I’ve told her I’ll pay for it as I know she worries about money etc. Ive also said we can go together if she wants to, whatever she’s comfortable with.
Im a really positive person and she’s really bringing me down it’s hard to stay positive. I don’t want to walk away but it’s starting to really get me down.