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To divorce or not divorce

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Rainbow988 · 19/05/2025 10:19

My husband and I have been married for 27 years and together 30 and the marriage has been on the verge of divorce since September last year but we have got 4 children together 3 teenagers 15 year old son and 2 14 year old daughters and 10 year old son the reson it's been like this since September last year because of the way my husband has been treating me and starting arguments with myself and not helping around the house with any of the house repairs or house work

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OchreRaven · 19/05/2025 13:02

So he was fine until September then suddenly changed?

If this is the case is it possible he’s having mental health issues or having an affair? Those are usually the two biggest reasons for a dramatic change in behaviour.

Even so you don’t have to work out the why. If you are unhappy you can leave for any reason. You say you have been on the verge of divorce so does this mean it’s been discussed with your Husband?

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Rainbow988 · 19/05/2025 14:45

OchreRaven · 19/05/2025 13:02

So he was fine until September then suddenly changed?

If this is the case is it possible he’s having mental health issues or having an affair? Those are usually the two biggest reasons for a dramatic change in behaviour.

Even so you don’t have to work out the why. If you are unhappy you can leave for any reason. You say you have been on the verge of divorce so does this mean it’s been discussed with your Husband?

He is good with his health but he has started spending a lot of time on his phone messaging someone and being cage with it

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LoyalSwan · 20/05/2025 20:15

Has this been building before that? There’s always a lot of history with relationships and things brew for a while, particularly if they go unresolved.

To not pull your weight and do your fair share, regardless of the situation, is shocking, especially when you have kids.

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Rainbow988 · 20/05/2025 20:21

LoyalSwan · 20/05/2025 20:15

Has this been building before that? There’s always a lot of history with relationships and things brew for a while, particularly if they go unresolved.

To not pull your weight and do your fair share, regardless of the situation, is shocking, especially when you have kids.

It's been building for a while yes

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