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Violent and aggressive back ground.

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spicyenchilladas · 19/05/2025 08:46

Just a question in a full custody court hearing do they take in to consideration violent history and back grounds even if it was 10 or more years ago? Do the courts ask for a full police back ground check?

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spicyenchilladas · 19/05/2025 09:13

anyone?

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FortyElephants · 19/05/2025 09:18

If you raise the facts of his violent background in your evidence it's likely he would have to respond. They won't ask for a police check as standard. If the most recent concern was a decade ago it's not likely that it would impact too significantly, unless it was a serious assault on a child for example.

Bbq1 · 19/05/2025 09:23

FortyElephants · 19/05/2025 09:18

If you raise the facts of his violent background in your evidence it's likely he would have to respond. They won't ask for a police check as standard. If the most recent concern was a decade ago it's not likely that it would impact too significantly, unless it was a serious assault on a child for example.

He? Op could be male or Op may be a
female with a violent past. Can't just assume the person they are referring to is male.

spicyenchilladas · 19/05/2025 09:25

It’s for an ex partner who is trying to go for full custody that has history of violence and aggression but this was 10+ years ago as it was in the local papers.

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FortyElephants · 19/05/2025 09:25

Bbq1 · 19/05/2025 09:23

He? Op could be male or Op may be a
female with a violent past. Can't just assume the person they are referring to is male.

I absolutely can!

FortyElephants · 19/05/2025 09:26

spicyenchilladas · 19/05/2025 09:25

It’s for an ex partner who is trying to go for full custody that has history of violence and aggression but this was 10+ years ago as it was in the local papers.

Are you a woman and your ex partner is a man?

spicyenchilladas · 19/05/2025 09:26

FortyElephants · 19/05/2025 09:26

Are you a woman and your ex partner is a man?

Yes

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FortyElephants · 19/05/2025 09:30

Does he have any contact with the child now?
Is there any reason he could argue you're not safe to have the child in your care?

spicyenchilladas · 19/05/2025 09:37

FortyElephants · 19/05/2025 09:30

Does he have any contact with the child now?
Is there any reason he could argue you're not safe to have the child in your care?

I have no idea what evidence he plans to put forward if honest. It’s all of the unknown. He has mentioned my mental health before but that got thrown out because there was no evidence of this and was granted a specific order to take her abroad. I don’t have anything on my police back grounds check, I’m not an alcoholic and don’t do drugs and I don’t abuse or neglect my children. I don’t know how he can prove otherwise as it will simple be him fabricating it all of this is what he says in court or on his responding statement. He has a few messages where I have told him while suffering with post natal depression you ‘you can have her as you always say you will do a better job’ because he always says that also during these times that I have said this I have been sleep deprived and exhausted and have also asked him to help out more as one of the times he didn’t have her for a whole month practically because he was ‘poorly’

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ChristmasFluff · 19/05/2025 12:09

Are you the lady who has received the solicitor's letter? He really has no grounds, and the letter is just trying to upset you.

As per your other thread, ignore him. Let him spend his money taking you to court (I doubt he will). The court ONLY looks at what is best for the child, which won't be him having full-time residency.

spicyenchilladas · 19/05/2025 14:00

ChristmasFluff · 19/05/2025 12:09

Are you the lady who has received the solicitor's letter? He really has no grounds, and the letter is just trying to upset you.

As per your other thread, ignore him. Let him spend his money taking you to court (I doubt he will). The court ONLY looks at what is best for the child, which won't be him having full-time residency.

I didn’t receive a letter no.

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