Is my physio interested in me or just being friendly?

[RubyGoose1]

Hello, wondering if anyone can help clarify, I am autistic so not very good at ready social cues. I have been seeing a physio for about 1 month now. The first few times I met him everything seemed cool, but I’m unsure if there is more to this now. He is a friendly guy but he’s started asking a bit more questions about me when I see him, as well as complimenting my outfit telling me that the color looked great. There is a lot of intense eye contact and smiling. He does have some lingering touches during assessments, he moves my hair (gently) out the way and has lifted me up slightly to move me (instead of me moving myself), as well as when we say our goodbyes he puts his hand on my shoulder. We follow each other on Facebook and I see he does have a GF. Is he friendly or being flirty?

Hard to tell, but either way it’s inappropriate!

Surely it’s irrelevant whether he’s interested if he’s not single? Are you saying yku think the touching is inappropriate,

To date someone who he is treating would be against his HCPC code of conduct.

I can't tell either from what you have said. He may just be feeling warm and friendly towards you, or he may be giving a message that he fancies you. This would be inappropriate both because you are his patient and because he's already in a relationship. The simplest thing would be to find another physio.

It's hard to tell from what you've written. It's not unusual for chat to get a bit more personal as you attend more sessions with any kind of professional, you run out of small talk and build a bit of a rapport. So that doesn't strike me as too odd.

Hard to know for sure if touches etc... are 'lingering' - I guess it's a physical job and he has to touch you, but it should only be what's necessary for the exercises and anything more than that could be a red flag.

The eye contact could be flirting or could be him trying to read your facial expressions to assess if you're in any discomfort or that he's pushing you too hard in the exercises.

So yeah, hard to know from what you've said, but he'd be an idiot if he was trying to flirt as it's massively unprofessional and could cost him his job.

Do you feel uncomfortable with him? If yes, you need find a new therapist. Even if it's innocent, you shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable with someone and maybe this is the kind of thing you'd be more comfortable seeing a female therapist for if that's the case?

You need a new Physio.

Do you mean you are now Facebook friends with them? Or that you are following his page on FB?

Either he is flirting and interested in pursuing you which means he is a cheat and very unprofessional. If you ever got together he would cheat on you too. Avoid.

If he’s not interested and just being friendly I think you should find another physio as you are clearly attracted to him and his behaviour is reinforcing this. This is why it’s inappropriate to be FB friends as a client.