Ex put tracker on car

[bellami0]

I got in my car a few days ago and a notification popped up on my phone that a tracker had been detected. Knew straight away it was my ex partner, we’ve been separated 6 weeks (i’ve moved out) and he must of put it on my car the same day my phone picked it up. And he took it off the same day. We have children together so unfortunately can’t completely cut him out of my life. I confronted him about it and his reason was ‘he doesn’t want me with someone else’. I have no words and have not really spoke to him other than to say what i think of him. I just can’t believe he did it, aside from being illegal, it’s a massive breach of privacy. And i have our children with me 100% of the time as work in a nursery and my youngest comes to work with me. He can’t accept the relationship is over and won’t take responsibility for his actions and thinks i must be with someone else (hence the tracker) which i’m not and he knows this. I just feel so violated and don’t know how to be towards him now but he’s messaging me like we’re ok and now i’m the bad guy for not wanting to respond.

Reading your post honestly makes me scared for you. Please report to the police so at least they have a reference of it as he may escalate or keep doing this and while you don’t want action now, you might in the future. I’d also recommend you contact women’s aid for some advice.

the most vulnerable time for anyone who was with a partner like that can be when they’ve just left and they can’t control you anymore. He sees you as a possession and you have 100000% done the right thing by leaving, just please be careful.

Report him to the police.

Then go to a solicitor and have a cease & desist letter sent, making it clear that if anything of the same nature happens again, you will apply for a restraining order.

Obviously if he gives your child a phone or any other intelligent digital device he can use that as a tracker too, so be careful.

Block him on all channels and set up a co-parenting app. Only communicate via that. He sounds controlling and obsessive. Is your new home secure?

Agree! Report this to the police.
His behaviour is extremely worrying and may well escalate.
Please do this and do not wait.

Ring the police non-emergency number right now and ask to speak with their domestic violence team. Ring your local branch of Women's Aid (you will be able to find their number online). This is bloody terrifying, he's escalating and you need to involve external services NOW.

Go to the police.

This is very scary. Please speak to the police and seek support e.g national domestic abuse helpline or woman’s aid

Another vote for the police, this is very concerning behaviour.

Another one saying go to the police. He may well escalate (I do dv training as part of my job and leaving a relationship can be a trigger for escalation). Please be careful

This is wise advice, might sound over the top and no one is trying to scare you for fun, but much better to try and address this now and protect yourself because sadly this can be the most vulnerable time for a woman. Do you have people in real life you can turn to for support?

Agree with pps.
police
parenting app
Block everywhere else
solicitor
Also get a doorbell camera.

Be careful that he doesn’t just get a tracker of a different brand that your phone won’t detect.

Also be careful that he doesn’t put trackers in your kids backpacks or special toys so that he knows when they are at home or with a babysitter.

check your phone and laptop for hidden software that read all your texts, social media posts and emails.

He may also have hidden a microphone in your car or home.

Alert your work so security know that he is not allowed on the premises.

This could be potentially dangerous.

Definitely Police.
This is 100% not ok and very concerning.

This is very serious OP. Please report to the police and then get legal advice about getting a CAO in place. This will detail out custody arrangements and enable you control over taking DC on holidays etc without needing his permission.