14 years married this year. Together a lot longer. I was having big issues in work this week. Threat of someone killing me and obviously having the police involved. I am a manager and had 100ish or so people I was responsible for doing the week. I had buildings on lock down in so far as I could at the request of the police. The person making the threats were visited by the police and also a follow up call was made by the police. Obviously this person is not well and that is known by all and by the police. Not an easy week at all and the voice notes were horrendous, the responsibility of others weighed heavily. But work continued and we got through the week with no incidents.
My husband was unsupportive I felt but I could be wrong. He has literally played Xbox all week in the evenings. He took Wednesday off and wanted me to do too on a whim. I didn’t because I felt I needed to be in with and not let the team deal with this particular issue.I asked him if I got a doctors appointment for one of the kids would he bring them. He said he would but with a face on. Another child asked would he collect them from school since he was home and he said no, they could walk. The walk home everyday usually, 45 minute walk. I asked why he wouldn’t collect them and he started shouting at me saying I never get a day off and what was wrong with them walking. I said nothing but you’re here so what’s the problem. That started more shouting. I got a little upset, probably because I had a lot going on, I wasn’t crying but did say why are you piling on when I’ve enough to deal with this week. He just had a face on so I left with the kids and went on to work. I didn’t even bother trying to get an appointment so he didn’t need to do that and the kids did walk home.
He hasn’t asked about anything in work, proceedings, the police, etc. He has sat in another room on Xbox all week. I just feel so unsupported. There’s nothing he can do but even asking would make me feel better I think. Am I wrong? I’m trying to understand his way of thinking?