For the past 13 months I've been involved with somebody who turned out to be an emotionally abusive dick. Jealous, hugely insecure, trying to "dim my light" constantly and bring me down a peg or two to make himself feel more of a man / less inadequate. His own brother said he's a narcissist and whilst idk about that he definitely has a disordered personality.
Love bombing. Negging. Intermittent reinforcement. Triangulation. Stonewalling. Gaslighting. Just about every emotionally abusive behaviour you can think of, he's squeezed it all into a year. I have been miserable.
I deluded myself into thinking I was in love with him but woke up this morning and had a spontaneous wake-up call. This is ridiculous and I'm done.
So, my AIBU..
I want to leave him with a dose of head-fuck in return for all of the upset and he has caused me, and I know this will bother him more than any 'dumping speech' I dole out.
I will be seeing him on Monday, unavoidable. My plan is to be total sweetness and light, cheerful and engaging, have him think we're fine, leave on a positive note then as I walk away I'm going to block him on everything and never speak to him again.
Not the nicest way to end things but is it unreasonable in these circumstances? I don't think I owe him an explanation, do I?