Would you date your ex

[TheLimeQuail]

Under what circumstances would you date your ex and what rules or boundaries would you make. Would you date them slowly at first as if you were getting to know them for the first time. He has made a rule that if this goes ahead he wants kids within the next 5 years at most. I feel like he’s not in a position to be making rules like that. I’m not sure I want children at all. no one else would have him he’s lazy but I just put up with him because I love him

He’s lazy and he’s trying to impose rules on you? Walk away. There are reasons why he’s your ex.

If you go back to an ex then you should take it twice as slowly imo as you know there were problems before.

What split you up last time and is it something that is genuinely going to be different this time?

Taxi!

Nah, bin him, he sounds like a twit.

Good Lord no! Run...

Just the point that he desperately wants kids and you don't know if you ever want is a huge issue that needs addressing from the start.
I only have 1 proper ex and I wouldn't be against dating him if the situation came yo, we were both young and wanting different things at the time, neither of us cheated or no bad feelings.

No, he's an ex for a reason.

Don't just fall into this OP.

OP, he’s an ex for a reason. Walk away.

Run far and fast. He’s an ex for a reason. If it was going to work,it would have by now.

The ex that broke my heart when I was 28 is still the coolest man I ever went out with. However, 7 years on, his crazy party lifestyle has caught up with him and he unfortunately looks like shit now.

So I would still date the him back then, but not the him now, if that makes sense.

Your ex sounds like he has no redeeming features, so BIN and don’t look back.

Nope. I'd go for drinks with most (not all). but I don't look back.

It's not about him making demands. He's said what he wants from a relationship in clear terms (someone also looking for a family in the medium term). You have a idea what you want, him but possibly not children. If it's not compatible be honest and duck out or let him decide whether he's in or out. If in, take it slowly and make clear you're undecided about kids. If you're undecided now, that is not something to spring on someone.

I think if a man was saying 'nobody else would want her because she's untidy' and 'she's in no position to be clear about what she wants re kids', what you're saying would look very different.

On the whole I would leave this one.

Never go back! I'm really old and I know this!

The only ex I would possibly consider dating would be my first serious boyfriend. Only because he was lovely and we split over ridiculous teen drama. But I haven’t seen him in 30 years and have no idea what his personality/looks are now.

Your situation definitely not.

No . We were married and have been divorced for years and I haven't heard from him in years . Don't live nearby so never see him .
I do hear about him now and again through people we jointly know and I guess that is visa versa , but get back with him ? 100% no thanks .