What to do

[Pinkypoos86]

So my boyfriend‘s ex-girlfriend doesn’t like me because I got with him after her. she has been calling me all of the names you can think of she has never met me, yet she’s got a lot of choice of words to say about me, my partner has got three children with her. She doesn’t want me to be around them at all which is a choice of hers that I have respected. I’m pregnant with his daughter or son when I find out. she’s the kind of person that starts to ask questions. How far is she? When is she due stuff like that? Because I know then she is going to try and cause trouble, she’s done it before where she’s tried to contact the social services on me as I’ve got three other children and try to say that I am a bad mum. like I said above she doesn’t know me. How can I make all of this stop? Do I reopen my case that I made last year with the police because this is nearly 2 years now she’s been starting on me. I know she still loves him but to harass me and bully me I don’t understand why.

What a mess. Why did you have a child with someone who’s got so much baggage in the first place when you already have 3 children?

Go to the police. Report her. Tell them she’s been harassing you for 2 years. Tell them she’s maliciously reported you to social services. Report her any time she does anything or says anything. Keep all incident numbers and the. Apply for a non mol order.

So you've got six children between you with a seventh on the way? OK. As pp said, you'll have to go to the Police.

Some people really are their own worst enemies.

It’s like the Jeremy Kyle Show needs to make a comeback

Wasn’t needing the negative comments but I guess the police will have to be involved

You’ve asked for advice and been given truthful advice. Truth hurts sometimes, best of luck for the new arrival 🙏🏼

It isn't negative comments it's the truth.

So many blended families are an absolute mess with multiple kids stuck in the middle because two adults decide to bring yet more kids into the middle of a toxic mess.

Your priority shouldn't be her or what she's doing. It should be you have made a choice to stick your 3 kids in the middle of a situation that will involve social services and police because you wanted to keep a man in your life.

You can't control her. You can only control the choices you make.

So yes the police. Which will impact on his kids, your kid and now potentially a new child tied to both sets of kids.

If I were in your shoes I would personally consider ending the pregnancy. It sounds like a complete mess and must be upsetting for all the children already involved, no more are needed.
I would put my existing children first and leave partner since his ex is so heavily impacting on your lives. You would be better to focus on your DC and yourself rather than setting up a blended ‘family’ with this man who’s brought you all this grief.
Focus on your kids, working hard, earning money and improving your situation.

Ask your partner to stop telling you what she says and avoid her.

Revolting, snobby comment.

I would have a termination and bin the rest of them.
No way would I bring this on myself.
How do your 3 kids feel about all this?

@BlackkittenfluffThey don’t know what is going on thankfully. I just think shes still in love with him. Jealous and bitter but also for the ones saying terminate my pregnancy absolutely not. My girls know nothing as I don’t talk about it infront of them.

@MissJoGrant it’s okay, I guess some people are entitled to their opinion. I found it quite funny to be honest.

@TipsyJoker when she stopped bothering me for awhile it was all great so it just shows it’s her. Me and my partner are very happy. My girls are very happy. It’s just unfortunately his ex-girlfriend is the toxic one. I’ve never met her children so I don’t know how they are feeling about this.

What a bloody shit show so unfair on the kids all of them

They aren't HER children they are HIS children.

Who will be YOUR child's sibling.

He is a piss poor father if he is playing step daddy to your kids and bringing another child into a second family who his kids won't even know.

You need to speak to a solicitor, there are civil injunctions you can get. You can’t stop her calling you names behind your back but calling SS on you when she has no knowledge is likely to be an issue that can be used.

You should get a clear chronological description of all behaviour.

You need to tell your partner to not pass any information on to his ex and stop telling you what she says about you. Cut off the bother but also cut off anything she has to feed on.

I don't know what do you wanted people to say. You knew the situation you were getting into as you had all this drama already 2 years ago. You decided to have another baby with him and put 6 already existing children into this mess. Blended families only work if people get along. it shouldn't just be about you two as a couple. Personally I can't even understand why he is with you or having a child with you when you're not even allowed around his kids and you're not fully included in his life.
Now you're asking what you can do. There is nothing you can do. Police will unlikely be involved and you can't control what she does and what she says about you.
The only victims here are the children.