Help for heartbreak

[Farahdwy]

I really need some help and suggestions.

im going through a huge heartbreak right now. Im finding it impossible to sleep or eat really. Always feel sick. Losing weight can’t sleep. Can anyone give me some advice on what I could take even temporarily to sleep or get rid of this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach??

Can you tell us what has caused the heartbreak? This might be helpful to understand and give advice as some things are definitely easier to deal with than others

I'm sorry @Farahdwy
I'm going through the same and it's really hard. I have that same feeling in my stomach too, mainly whenever I have to have contact with my ex, which I have to do for another few months yet.

Some practical things that have helped me:
I belong to a running club. Lovely people and a good distraction and the exercise gives you an endorphin high. Hard to make myself go sometimes but I never regret going. Enter races - they give you something else to focus on. If that's not your thing, find some exercise, ideally with other people, that does appeal. It's as good as taking a mild antidepressant.

Set up a Google sheets doc on your phone and list all the bad things about your ex. Read them whenever you need a reminder of the negative things about him/your relationship.

Book things in - holidays/concerts/seeing friends etc - so you have things to look forward to and to distract to.

Buy a nice notebook and write down the nice things that have happened to you at the end of each day.

Write a journal whenever you need to. I keep a short diary at the end of each day. It helps to get my feelings out and on paper.

Go no contact if you haven't done so already. This really helps to detach yourself from the person.

Someone on here said save a period of time each day for ruminating and crying and being upset. And then, after that time is done, get on with other things. I keep forgetting to do this but it's a good idea.

Hope some of this helps.
If I think of anything else, I'll let you know.

If you can’t eat, drink smoothies. Blend up soups and drink them. Even if you don’t manage much, it’s better than nothing.

for insomnia, I highly recommend this. I have personally used it and so have friends I’ve recommended it to. It might take a few listens to work but the more you use it, the better and quicker it works.

And just know that this will pass. You will be happy again. It’s ok to work through your feelings. Maybe you could try writing down how you feel. Get it all out and then burn it.

You should also do things that lift your mood. Go for a walk and get the endorphins pumping. Watch movies that make you laugh. Listen to music that makes you feel happy. Spend time with friends who can support you and make you laugh. You could also try writing a gratitude list. Instead of focusing on the negatives, focus on everything in your life you’re grateful for. From the tiniest thing to the biggest. For example, for the roof over your head, your favourite drink, for the nice weather, for your health, for being able to do xyz, etc. whatever it is for you. This can shift your focus on to more positive things and make you aware of how much you have as opposed to focusing on that which you lack.

Hi there friend. I'm going through the same thing. What caused your breakup?

I left my ex exactly 2 weeks ago today. I cried again this morning. The grief comes harder at times. I'm trying to keep my daily life going, but it feels like I'm just doing everything by going through the motions. Inside I feel numb and very sad at the same time.

I left my ex after 3 years. I kept begging him basically for commitment towards a lifelong future together and he couldn't deliver, so I left now before he strung me along any longer. I gave as much as I possibly could and he just let me leave. It hurts like hell every day. I am praying nonstop for this pain to go away.

I don’t want to go into too much detail.
there’s a broken engagement. Another woman in background although no concrete evidence of cheating. Very unsupportive whilst I’m going through a bereavement of my sister. Many many emotional issues. Says I’m unlovable and a horrible human being. If I could curl into a little ball right now and cease to exist I would. Need aome sleeping pills. The irony is I needed to lose weight for my wedding dress. I bet I’d fit in it now.