I honestly don’t want to spend another second with my partner. She treats me like a housemaid and is verbally abusive.
my tasks: cooking, laundry, cleaning, getting up in the night with our toddler.
her tasks: saying what I’ve cooked isn’t good enough, complaining laundry not put away properly, complaining that it’s messy, criticising me for being tired and forgetful, talking about how I treat her ‘like shit’
Shes always had trouble with temper tantrums, but nowadays it’s just every day. Shouting and swearing at me. I think I could deal with it if she ever apologised but if I bring it up it becomes a conversation about how horrible I am, how useless I am. She cries and says I make her want to kill herself. My crimes are usually ‘not listening’ (about how exactly housework needs to be done and hour long monologues about her job), ‘taking my baby away’ (she prefers me because I don’t just sit and scroll on the sofa all day and actually play with her) and ‘bitching about me’ (messaging my mum in tears after she’s screamed at me for more than an hour).
the thing is I just don’t know what to do because I don’t think I can bear to do a timeshare with our toddler. I would miss her so much and worry she wasn’t being looked after. But we have equal rights to her. I would also have nowhere to live, have to give up my house. Probably have to give up my job too as I can’t afford childcare on one salary. We could stay at my mums but she lives in inner city London, nursery fees sky high and no places, so I’d have to live in my childhood bedroom and not work.
I don’t know what to do I’m just miserable here.