Arguments

[Ending67]

Would you leave your husband if he kept starting arguments with you for no reason whatsoever

What are the arguments about? He must think there’s a reason.

I mean, yes I would, I can’t stand arguing, but if it’s something like you keep leaving dishes on top of the dishwasher, you gamble or something I don’t know.

@Ending67 The argument must have some context - he isn't just saying 'I'm going to argue with you", you respond"no I'm not" in a pythonesque style! If they are on varied and petty subjects it would suggest some underlying resentment towards you. If always the same subject then what? As he may have a fair grievance he doesn't feel is resolved.
Or he could just be a nasty angry man. There are many possibilities here!

He thinks I am lazy because I am a stay at home mum and I do all the house work during the week on my own while he is working and at weekends I go shopping on my own

@Ending67 how old are the children? School age or younger?

We have got 4 children 15 and 13 and 13 and 10 the youngest as disabilitys so he needs one of us more than the others

@Ending67 Does his disability mean he is not in school? It sounds like you could easily get a part time job maybe? Maybe he resents you having so much time to yourself, while he is working. If the children were younger I would understand your need to be home looking after them. But unless your child's disability means he doesn't attend school then I can see why there may be tension.

Obvious isn’t it? He’s been paying for his family for 13 years and probably thinks by now, you’d have got a part time job at least and you haven’t. He is resentful but his bad for not saying darling I’m pissed off your still at home when you could get a part time job and ease the financial burden

He goes to hospital a fair bit

It’s not arguments about nothing then is it. Why can’t you go shopping during the week while your kids are at school?

You ask if you should leave him? It sounds like he may leave you. What would your life look like if he did?

He’s unhappy, he’s telling you so, I wouldn’t dismiss that as starting arguments about nothing. But by all means get a divorce if you think you’d be happier.

It does not matter what we would do OP, you are the one living with him. The question is "would YOU?"

Evey time he starts arguments he always calls me names and swears at me as well the names he calls me are ugly bitch and lazy cow and useless cunt

Strange you wouldn’t have mentioned that in your opening post. If it’s true then obviously divorce him. Then you can go shopping anytime you like without anyone complaining.

You’ve posted on another thread tonight that I’ve literally just seen that he’s had an affair and you’re splitting up.

Sounds like a miserable marriage. I would leave in your shoes, yes. No one should speak to you like that, no matter what.

I would not tolerate this for a day OP.

There's no going back from that - any man who spoke to me like that would be shown the door pdq!