2nd date no kiss

[Rachet01]

So, just had a 2nd date today and the chemistry is there but he still didnt make a move to kiss me....
Date 1 was only 2 days ago. we had a great date, laughed a lot, flirted but at the end just a goodbye hug
he msged me when i got home asking me out again. So now 2 days later we have just been for a nice walk with our dogs and then to a pub for some lunch. we spent 4 hrs together on both dates
I just thought we might have kissed today and it never happened
As the date ran over a bit today we both realised we needed to go as I had to pick up my daughter and he had to be at his bike club or he would miss it.
I really like this guy. Im just not used to dating nice guys and he is really nice
whats everyones thoughts on does no kiss mean hes not that into me?

You haven't kissed him so perhaps he's thinking the same thing.

Go in for the kiss.

Have the next date in the evening and drink wine!

This is what i think needs to happen. Thats if he asks for a third date which he hasnt yet

Why don’t you ask him and suggest dinner and drinks this time ?

I think he sounds nice and respectful actually. It's not often I say that on here! Were both dates in the daytime? A night time date with some wine might be just what you need

As a guy I am very wary - does this person like me, yes they seem to, I want to kiss but will she be ok with it? Do I just do a peck, open mouth or what? What if I go to kiss and she doesnt respond... Lots of doubt.

I do prefer it when a woman makes the move as I would not want to 'force' myself on her, I need to be 110% sure it's the right thing. So maybe you could meet again and you take the lead? Or, if the chemistry is right, sit next to him, hold his hand and just say last date was great, just missed a kiss (with a cheeky grin!)

Agree with PP - he sounds really respectful and it’s a refreshing change when a man isn’t shoving his tongue down your throat after about 2 minutes.

And also agree make the next date an evening one with a couple of drinks and maybe that’ll give both of you a bit of Dutch courage

Yes to evening date next time. Don’t wait for him to ask you - ask him (then report back)

I would do this, and if there’s still no kiss then I would can the whole thing.

I had a similar experience last year where I went on 4 dates with a guy and there was chemistry and we kissed at the end of each date, but he didn’t seem to want to take it further. When he suggested a 5th date it was for dinner mid-week (when we both work full time and had work the next morning), and I knew it would be more of the same nonsense so I pulled the plug on the whole thing.

I think how fast or slow you want a relationship to move is a sign of (in)compatibility.

I'd be so much more interested in a man who doesn't try to kiss before you even know each other. Obviously you want it to get physical at some point but no need to rush it.

Honestly, I would not want a guy to kiss me on our second date. But then again, I am ancient and have not dated in decades. 🤣

I went on about 4 or 5 dates with DP. He always seemed keen to meet again and we had a great time, but he was just shy. One night we hugged goodbye and he sort of went for a cheek kiss, but it lingered! The next time I said we’re in danger of friend zoning each other so he’d have to make a move if he was interested. Later that night he did kiss me and it was lovely.

In 2025 all decent guys will have internalised the lessons of MeToo and the importance of respecting women's boundaries. That's a really good thing. They're not going to force themselves on you unless they're absolutely sure you want to go there (booze may help with this on both sides).

For women it does mean we can't be passive and wait around for the kiss without at the very least giving a strong signal we want one. I think that's a great thing too!

I always tend to make the move myself. Like PP said, most decent men hold back until they are sure this is what the woman wants. I impulsively kissed my partner at the bar on our first date and I will always remember his look of delight. It was a lovely moment

So many things never happen because people hesitate and people also are concerned about making an advance which may be unwanted. Just do it!

Yup you are going to have to get this done yourself. Go for it OP, get that smooching going 😗.

Lots of good responses thanks guys and great to have a males perspective
I think he's maybe playing it safe
we kinda see each other at work
so Im a nurse and hes a paramedic so we sometimes cross paths and last week he just randomly asked me out for a drink and thats how it started
i did say to him paramedics have a bad rep for being flirty around all the hospitals so Ive not ever dated one
I think Ive stuck that in his head
Last night he did msg me just to say how is evening was and we had a back and forth chit chat of nothing really
hes going away for 2 days now with his friend and Im hoping his friend gives him some advice
Im definitely going to suggest meeting on an evening as both dates have been daytime.
will update when i know more 😭😂